Monday, January 9, 2017

Ireland Revisited

This past October, Jared and I were fortunate to be able to return to Ireland once again. It is one of our favorite places in the world-- such a beautiful country, with a rich heritage.

If you are considering a trip abroad and are on a budget, consider visiting Ireland during the off season (October-April). Some of the country's key tourist attractions may be closed or operating on a reduced schedule, but as a result, you will likely get some great deals on lodging, food, and car rentals. It may also be rainy and a bit chilly, but that's what warm socks and rain coats were made for.

Jared and I typically fly Delta, and were able to find last minute, round trip tickets from San Francisco to Dublin at the low cost of $523. We left on October 6, and arrived on the morning of Jared's birthday-- October 7.

Friday, October 7

Immediately after picking up our car rental, we drove north to County Meath. We had planned to see Newgrange, a very well known, prehistoric, above ground tomb type structure. However, when we arrived at the visitor center, we learned that we would have to wait several hours before the next tour. We decided to simply purchase a ticket for a tour of Knowth, a nearby and, for some reason, less popular, though similar, site.

Obviously, I can't make a comparison having only seeing Knowth, but Knowth was pretty spectacular. A series of mound shaped "tombs" sit clustered on a hill overlooking a lush valley. The tombs are covered with grass. Within are passageways that connect to other structures (although, as tourists, we are only allowed to venture a few feet underground).

Knowth has a very rich history. It was initially constructed in prehistoric times, and continued to be in use for several years-- just adapted to suit the rulers of the time. Many artifacts, possibly dating as far back as 4000 BCE have been discovered beneath the mounds.





After our somewhat whimsical tour of Knowth, it was time to drive west to Doolin. I don't know why we decided driving across the country after spending hours on a plane was a good idea. How quickly we must have forgotten the treachery of the dimly lit, narrow Irish road. Never again!

This was likely our big mistake of the trip. As we neared Doolin, the sun began to set and we found ourselves on a narrow road that butted up to a foreboding rock wall. Other cars were whizzing by as if on a freeway. But we were terrified. Jared was driving, but as a passenger, my anxieties were high, too.

Finally, we made it to the Roadford House, a lovely, simple bed and breakfast with a gorgeous view of the Atlantic Ocean and town of Doolin. We were treated to a delicious dinner-- Roadford House is known as one of the best restaurants in the area. We were then so tired, we almost immediately went to sleep.


Did I mention it was Jared's birthday? Yes! On one hand, how wonderful it was that we went to Ireland. On the other hand, how unfortunate that he had to spend a sizable portion of his day driving on a narrow road (not to mention, on the left).

Saturday, October 8

Jared chose Saturday's itinerary. Fascinated by the Aran Islands, off the coast, he booked a ferry trip to Inishmore. Our inn was a short drive to the dock, and for that, we were thankful.

We boarded the Happy Hooker, a ferry of healthy repute, and voyaged for what felt like a quarter of an eternity until we reached the first of the three Aran Islands. But alas, it was not our destination. Nor was the second. At last, we reached the final island, where we disembarked. Thank goodness for Dramamine-- it kept my delicious breakfast of oatmeal and cream in my stomach where it belonged.


Almost as soon as we reached Inishmore, it began to rain. The countryside really does look stunning covered in a cape of mist. It almost gives you the illusion of going back in time, and seeing it through the eyes of early settlers.

When you see a normally rainy place on a sunny day-- you have a feeling that you are a tourist and the morning has been staged for you. When you see a place in the rain, and when you begin to feel as if the jackets you brought are not enough, your experience, though uncomfortable, feels genuine.



We rented a tandem bike, which we soon discovered had a bit of a malfunctioning chain. Our very touristy island map assured us that it was an "easy 30 minute bike ride" from the port to Dun Aonghasa, a prehistoric fort built on cliffs overlooking the ocean.

Perhaps it would have been an easy 30 minute ride if I was in better shape, if it was not raining, and if we had not accidentally taken the high road as opposed to the low road. Since this isn't a parable, there really is no virtue or secret to be unlocked in taking the high road. I suppose it makes a slightly better story-- but at the time, it sure was painful.



Seeing Dun Aonghasa was worth taking twenty high roads. It is absolutely stunning. I can't imagine how prehistoric people even began to envision and build such a majestic fort. I am afraid of heights, and even I felt compelled to stand near the edge and peer down at the rocks below.




We stopped at a few other spots on the island-- the Seven Churches, as well as a beach occasionally frequented by seals (we saw no seals-- just kidding, we saw seals. I just forgot). We weren't in luck where vegetarian fare was concerned, so we made do with coffees and our supply of granola bars. Always travel with snacks-- as a picky eater, that is one of my many mottos.

Oh, it should also be noted, on our way back, we took the low road.

When we finally made it back to Doolin, it was time to head to the Dingle Peninsula, where we were to spend the next two days. I had found a really charming, refurbished farm hand's cottage on Airbnb, complete with a small kitchen and sauna.

Once again, we forgot to fully take into the account the poor road conditions, and the fact that most of our driving was to be done under the shroud of darkness. On top of that, our GPS could not find the cottage, and we were left to rely on directions from the host. While his directions ultimately got us to the right location, there is something comforting about being able to stare at your GPS or smartphone and know exactly how many miles or minutes you have to go before you arrive at your destination.

Sunday, October 9

We allowed ourselves to sleep in-- it was time for some vacationesque relaxation after being on the go for the past couple of days. We then filled a backpack with snacks and water, then headed out for the Slea Head Drive, which makes a loop around Dingle Peninsula.

To get to the drive, you must trek through some exceptionally rocky terrain. It was somewhere along this road that we stopped at a lookout. We were informed by a young German teen who spoke fairly good English, that if we were willing to hike and scramble rocks for ten minutes or so, we would make it to a very beautiful lake. We decided to take his word for it, and did indeed make it to a lovely lake.



We felt like wimps on our way back, especially me, as I struggled to find my footing (and avoid mossy mud). Our sense of wimpiness was especially heightened by the fact that a young Irish man was walking the same "path" (I put that in quotes, because it was really a free for all to get back over the boulders) with two young children in tow that he was practically carrying simultaneously.

Shortly after our hike, we entered the Conor Pass-- a one lane road that connects to Slea Head Drive. Conor Pass cuts through the mountains, one side of the road hugging the hills, the other exposed to clouds and sky. It was a scary road, but because it was truly a one lane road, cars drove slowly and were very polite about making space. Honestly, we felt safer on this road than the "two lane" roads in Doolin.

We stopped in downtown Dingle for a bite to eat, then continued the drive, stopping at beautiful points of interest along the way. In contrast to the day before, today was clear and sunny. I wore sunglasses (Jared never does, perhaps on principle?) and there was no need for a coat.






At one point, Jared tested the water temperature at Coumeenoole Beach, and discovered it was very much like Half Moon Bay in California, perhaps even a touch warmer. When I close my eyes and think of Ireland, I return to a grassy spot overlooking the sea. So lovely, so freeing.




Monday, October 10

Before leaving Dingle Peninsula, we stopped at a beach named Inch Strand. "Inch," in this case, has nothing to do with size. The seashore is incredibly lengthy. Being the off season, and a cloudy day, there were hardly any people on the beach. I think we saw about a dozen people, maybe a couple of dogs.


Our next step was Killarney, where we planned to visit Ross Castle. Ross Castle is more of a tower. It dates back to the middle ages and was the home of a prominent family in the area. Over the years, the tower fell into disrepair. A group of American businessmen decided to purchase the castle and surrounding land with hopes of transforming it into a theme park. However, one man bought out the others, and decided on a historic restoration. Now, you can pay a few euros for a very informative tour of the castle.



Tours with Jared are quite fun. Guides often throw out questions they hope nobody will know, but Jared almost always seems to know the answers. However, there was a question that stumped us all on this tour-- we learned that in the middle ages, plates were polished with lead to keep them bright and shiny. Unknown to the noblemen, the lead, though elegant, was also poisonous.

Life in the middle ages, even for the royals and nobles, is not something to be envious of. They pooped in a common place, and then used the stench to rid their clothes of bugs. They positioned their staircases and designed their homes with an eye towards fighting off assailants. They did not sleep lying down, partially because they believed one should only lie down if dead, but also partially because they likely had such poor respiratory function, it was not possible to comfortably do so.



What a great tour we had a Ross Castle, and what lovely walk around the nearby lake, but I am glad we did not stumble upon a time traveling relic while there, because I would have not enjoyed the lives they had.

After our time at Ross, we ventured to the Killarney National Park. We walked up to Torc Falls, which was rather reminiscent of Portland. We also stopped at Ladies' View. A beautiful lookout named for Queen Victoria's ladies-in-waiting. Upon visiting Killarney, they all agreed they loved this spot, so it was named for them. Since I share the great queen's name, I almost feel personally involved in this outcome.



We spent this night, and the subsequent night, at the Killeen House, which I highly recommend. The owners (a husband and wife) are absolutely delightful-- they knew our names, and gave several great suggestions. Over dinner (which was divine) we overheard a conversation with other guests, where the owners recalled previous guests from years past in great detail. What talent!

Tuesday, October 11

We had planned to take a boat tour around the Skellig Islands, but due to poor weather, the trip was canceled. You may know of the Skellig Islands from Star Wars. Nowadays, it's next to impossible to book a landing trip there-- even for the locals.

Only a certain number of people can visit Skellig each day, and only during the regular tourist season. It is much easier to do an "eco tour," where you just circle around the islands. That was what we had planned to do, until the weather interfered.

We instead drove around the Ring of Kerry, making a stop at a quaint little rock circle, where people wrote wishes and tied them to the branches of a nearby tree. We met a nice couple there, two American men, with whom we had a friendly conversation. It appeared that one of the men had recently finished cancer therapy.

We also stopped at Ballycarbery Castle, which was once owned by the same family that owned Ross Castle-- the Valentine Browns. A gorgeous ruin, nearby signs admonish visitors to keep away because it is structurally unsafe. We were the only people there, so after rushing out in the wind to take a good look, I took a nap in the car.


On our way home, we made another stop at Ladies' View, where we stopped for a snack. I even managed to place a Growlithe at the Ladies View gym there (for all of you Pokemon Go players).

Wednesday, October 12

We loved our past experience at Dromoland Castle so much, we decided to return this time. In addition to booking a hotel and dinner, we booked breakfast, a hawk walk, and a last minute spa treatment (for me; Jared is not fond of people rubbing his bones together).

We arrived a little too early to check in-- our fault entirely. But management treated us to scones and coffee. Delicious. We can't get enough of scones, especially when clotted cream is in the picture!


Afterwards, we went on our hawk walk with Anthony the hawk. A beautiful young guy, he has a penchant for landing on heads and flying into tree branches. After a walk with Anthony, where he flew from arm to arm, we got to see the rest of his "friends."



There are several other hawks on the grounds, along with a few owls. A creepy nightmare owl and a beautiful fluffball of an owl.



Later, we had dinner at the Earl of Thomond. It was not as magical as the year before-- mostly because the men at the table next to us were being incredibly foul, and we later learned they were actually staff at the restaurant, celebrating the last day of a friend. Their behavior put quite a damper on our appetites and our entire experience.

Thursday, October 13

Even as I write this, I feel the sadness that comes with knowing something good is drawing to a close. Our trip was a beautiful respite from the "real world."

We saved a couple of our favorite places for this, our last full day in Ireland. First, we stopped at the Rock of Cashel. A bit more crowded this time, and a bit brighter, it was still gorgeous.



We also learned that if you spend more than 15 euros at a nearby gift shop, you get free admission for up to two adults and four children. That's only slightly more than the cost of admission for two adults, so it was totally worth it. We now have a tiny knick knack in our home that reminds us of our trip. We usually hate knick knacks, but this one is small and tasteful.

Our next and final step was Glendalough. Oh, beautiful Glendalough, home of St. Kevin. The more I learn about St. Kevin, the less I think I like him. He was a hermit who established Glendalough, and it is rumored that he once pushed a woman off a cliff for "tempting" him. Quite a forceful way to say no, don't you think?

Glendalough was a little more crowded this time. There was a large group of schoolchildren from Spain, and several families and couples. We also couldn't locate an exceptionally interesting fallen tree we had spotted two years prior-- but I guess that isn't all that uncommon. All of the ruins were still there. So were the signs advocating for the protection of the grazing sheep.






On our drive there, and our drive north to Dublin, we saw several signs for "St. Kevin's Way." My, my, my, he sure had quite the way. It seemed to weave itself in and out of every nook and cranny, and appear when you hardly expected it.

I joked with Jared that maybe we should walk St. Kevin's Way one of these days. But he knows our minds best; we aren't that type of tourist. We prefer cars, and occasionally, tandem bikes.

Tuesday, May 3, 2016

Why I don't participate in my employer's wellness program

Off the cuff email addressed (and sent) to the Stanford BeWell program:

Hello,

During my first two years as a Stanford employee I participated in the BeWell program. What wasn’t there to like about an easy extra $200? However, my attitude towards the program began to change during my second year of participation.

The in-person screening and advising appointment was very uncomfortable. Emphasis was placed on my weight, and on how I needed to exercise more. As a woman who is 5’7” and 140 lbs, I am by no means overweight. However, the advising, and subsequent follow ups placed undue focus on my body. Having struggled with my self-image for much of my life, and having experienced a surge in weight over the past two years (due in part to added medication), this focus did more harm than good. During a follow up coaching session, I broke down in tears of guilt and frustration. It was then that I realized, the extra $200 was not worth it. Not worth the constant guilt over body weight and image.

One might say, yes, well, you don’t have to focus on physical exercise or weight loss, you could choose to focus on stress, or healthy eating, etc. But the thing is, my life is pretty great as is. My job does not unduly stress me out. I have great family relationships and friendships in my life. I know what helps me decompress after the rare challenging day at the office. I’m a vegetarian and a great cook, and most of my meals are prepared at home. I have an excellent primary care doctor who I trust when I have medical issues.

So when someone asks me, what do you want to focus on? I immediately say the first thing that comes to my mind, and the thing that bothers me the most—my weight. And not once has anyone at BeWell replied with, actually, you’re at a very healthy weight for your age and height. Nope, every time they reply with tips on eating less and exercising more—tips that reinforce my already negative beliefs about myself.

This year I decided to not participate in BeWell. And I’ve already decided that I will not participate next year either. And oddly, I feel like in my own unique way, I’ve chosen what truly makes me feel well.

Sincerely,


Victoria Muirhead

Monday, May 25, 2015

A Jaunt Up North

Over President's Day 2015, Jared and I took a quick trip up to Seattle to see the sights with my aunt Susan. Despite colder-than-Bay-Area temperatures, we managed to stay warm enough and had a magnificent time! 

After dropping off our bags at Susan's house, we hit the town-- stopping at the popular Space Needle. If you download a free app, virtual space needles will appear in the photos you take-- as long as you're standing in the right spots beneath the needle:

(1) Susan looking very local and composed.  


(2) Victoria confused in the clouds.


(3) Jared using mind powers for city entertainment.

Next stop: Chihuly Museum-- which I highly, highly recommend to museum lovers of all ages. Jared and I took one glasswork class, in which we made mere paper weights (no glass blowing involved), but it gave us a whole new appreciation for glass art.

Apparently the new frontier is combining colors. But I think we can all agree that the shapes created are definitely impressive, too.


An octopus's garden!


Voyage of the imagination

We walked over to the Bill and Melinda Gates visitor center, which highlighted some of the really cool projects they are undertaking across the globe. 


Talking about philanthropy....


A scrolling paper list of everything the foundation has supported... Anything in this snapshot catch your eye? 

More photos from around town:


A... fish ladder?


Getting some sun at a local burger joint... Yum!

We got to spend some time with my cousin Michelle, her husband, Matt, and their fun (and big) dogs. They live in a beautiful town called Burien, a short walk away from the coast. 

We walked down to the nearby beach park just before the sun set, then headed back to their home for a tasty barbeque. 


Not warm like Hawaii, but so scenic.


An unpeopled picture of the shores.

One of the "high"lights of our trip was Deception Pass, north of Seattle. From there, you cross a bridge onto Whidbey Island. The view is gorgeous:


Tumultuous seas below.


Jared, the bold adventurer


Hundreds of feet above land and water


Beneath the bridge

Once on Whidbey Island, we visited several former military sites, now parks.


Who knows what we are laughing about here?


A cute little lighthouse!

We had the opportunity to visit the Boeing Museum. I know Jared could have spent more than the day we spent there. 


Aboard a retired Air Force One plane


All the cool kids (and I literally mean kids) were climbing into this contraption, so I had to, too.

On our final day, I overcame my fear of heights to ride the ferris wheel hundreds of feet into the air:


Jared: having an awesome time! Me: freaking out, palms are sweaty... but still managing to smile.


Susan: Just enjoying life.


The view from the top of the wheel was incredible! 


The view from the top of the wheel was terrifying!

My bravery was rewarded with a most delicious meal from The Pink Door, an Italian restaurant near Pike's Place Market. I had a delicious veggie lasagna. Jared had a perfectly toasted grilled cheese sandwich, and Susan had colorful beet salad. We ended our meal with these divine cream puffs and lemon cake with blood orange sauce... both of which were amazing... especially the cream puffs. 

I have a feeling it won't be long before we are back in Seattle again.